What you allow different areas of your life to access. The boundaries between work, relationships, health, and identity.
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App Permissions
App Permissions — Decide which parts of your personal life your work is allowed to enter, and hold that line consistently.
App Permissions controls what different areas of your life are allowed to access. Ronan Harari essentially revoked work's permission to access his personal time and relationships. The office got the hours from 10 to 6; everything after that was blocked. His friends and family didn't get work-Ronan — they got a version of him that had closed those tabs. That boundary wasn't set by a rule handed to him — he built it by deciding what each zone of his life was and wasn't allowed to touch.
Ronan Harari lays out his personal operating system to Matt Smith — total immersion during office hours, then a hard stop that work is simply not allowed to cross into his personal life.
"i'm a 10 to sixer back in the day i go into the office i do all my meetings they're back to back in in like thirty years..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Define clear off-hours boundaries so your work can't reach into every part of your personal life.
App Permissions is about what you allow different areas of your life to access. For Matt Smith, the business had been granted full access to everything — his home, his schedule, his emotional bandwidth, his identity — with no boundaries between work and the rest of his life. The shift was recognizing that the grief project needed its own lane, and that his personal life needed to be walled off from it rather than permanently open to it.
Guy Raz is pushing back on Matt Smith's struggle to separate himself from the business, urging him to carve out hard, non-negotiable time outside of work.
"yeah i i agree i mean listen this is this is tough right because your business is your for for for many of us it's it's..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Audit what you've been automatically giving access to, and revoke the permissions you never consciously agreed to.
App Permissions is about what you allow different areas of your life to access — where you draw the lines between what people can ask of you and what stays yours. Chloe Bailey had been operating with her permissions wide open: everyone got access to her time, energy, and compliance. Learning to say no was her starting to revoke those default permissions — deciding consciously what each person and situation actually gets from her rather than just defaulting to yes.
Chloe Bailey is openly identifying herself as a lifelong people pleaser and describing what it cost her — and what she had to reclaim — when she started saying no.
"i'm a people pleaser i don't like people being upset with me i don't like knowing people think i did something wrong to..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Identify which area of your life has taken over permissions it was never supposed to have, and start drawing that boundary back.
App Permissions are about what you allow different parts of your life to access — particularly whether your sport, job, or external role gets to control how you feel about your body and what you eat. Aly Raisman's gymnastics career had been granted full access to her relationship with food and her physical self. It got to decide when she ate, how much, and whether she could eat in front of others at all. The shift she's making now is about revoking those permissions — deciding that the sport no longer gets to govern her body image or eating.
Aly describes how her gymnastics career had been granted total access to her relationship with food — controlling when, what, and whether she could eat in front of others at all.
"i remember times literally because there was so much pressure to be thin i had to be careful what i ate in front of peop..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Deliberately define what each relationship in your life is allowed to access, so one area's breakdown doesn't take everything else down with it.
App Permissions is about what you allow different areas of your life to access — the boundaries between work, relationships, and identity. Susan Griffin-Black had to consciously redraw the lines after her divorce: what did the co-founder relationship still get to access, and what did it not? She kept the professional channel open while closing the personal one, essentially redesigning the permissions Brad had in her life so the business could keep running without the marriage bleeding into it.
Susan Griffin-Black is describing how she and Brad consciously redesigned their relationship after divorce — keeping the professional channel open while closing the personal one, and defining what each domain still got to access.
"i think it was smart but and it was good for the business and good for our family and good for our children and you know..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Restrict which responsibilities get access to your core energy and focus time.
App Permissions controlled what Christina Tosi allowed different areas of her life to access. When she was CEO of Milk Bar, every part of the business could demand her attention - operations, strategy, personnel, and creative work all had full access to her energy and focus. She reconfigured her permissions so that only the creative and culinary work could access her primary bandwidth, while operational responsibilities were redirected to other leaders.
Christina Tosi is explaining the moment she realized she needed to step down as CEO to focus on her zone of genius.
"because the milk bar business had been so stress tested through these last years since we spoke i really had to take a s..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Recognize when external pressures are demanding inappropriate access to your personal life and identity.
App Permissions controls what different areas of your life can access. Cara Delevingne learned that the entertainment industry demanded full access to dictate her personal life and sexuality, while her authentic self was given no permissions to exist in professional spaces. Weinstein was essentially demanding administrative control over her identity.
Cara Delevingne is recounting Harvey Weinstein's phone call where he demanded control over her personal life and sexuality to protect her acting career.
"he called me up and said there are images of you and he named some famous women i'd been seen with and he was like i don..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Establish what situations are allowed to access your peace of mind and which require your explicit consent.
App Permissions controls what different areas of life can access. As a seven-year-old, Cara Delevingne had no control over what family trauma could access in her daily experience. Her parents' approach gave family dysfunction full permissions to disrupt her sense of safety and stability, while giving her actual voice and concerns no permissions at all.
Cara Delevingne is describing her childhood response to her mother's frequent hospitalizations when no adults would tell her where her mother was.
"that feeling of not knowing where she was no one told me so i just thought she was dead and i didn't understand that's w..."
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App Permissions — Limit how much access relationships have to your core resources and identity.
App Permissions determines what different areas get to access. Maya was allowing her relationships complete access to her energy, peace, and identity - letting partners' needs override her own wellbeing. She needed to revoke these permissions and set boundaries around what romantic relationships could demand from her.
Matthew Hussey is explaining to Maya from Houston how her pattern of overgiving served as a way to control what relationships could access from her.
"overgiving is something that's meeting a need for you it's working for you on some level and it's important to figure ou..."
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App Permissions — Stop letting convenience override consideration for your partner's effort and time.
App Permissions controls what different areas of life get to access. When Matthew Hussey was dating Audrey, he was unconsciously letting his convenience and family time access decision-making about their dates. Audrey's boundary forced him to adjust these permissions - his comfort and ease could no longer override her needs for reciprocity.
Matthew Hussey is describing the moment his future wife Audrey set a boundary about meeting halfway in their early dating, showing how she communicated what her relationship would access.
"she sent me a message and she said hey there's a really great bar near me i think you'll love it let's go there and i wa..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Set clear boundaries about what different areas of life can demand from you.
App Permissions shows how Mariana Van Zeller struggled with the boundaries between her work life and family life during the Niger coup crisis. She had to decide what each area of her life could access - whether her role as team leader could override her role as mother, and how to manage the competing demands without letting one destroy the other.
Mariana Van Zeller is describing how she struggled with the boundaries between her work responsibilities and family obligations during the Niger military coup crisis.
"i realized that i was the boss this was my production company that makes traffic so i felt an enormous responsibility fo..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Set clear boundaries about what information each area of your life gets access to.
App Permissions. Garrett Morgan had to manage what different areas of her life could access. Her work couldn't know about her trans status or legal situation. Her family needed some information but not the full emotional weight. Her legal team needed complete access to certain information but not others. She was constantly managing boundaries between these different spheres.
Garrett Morgan is explaining how she researched international relocation options while managing what different areas of her life could access during the military ban.
"i'm very particular about data sources and like where you get data from most of the stuff you know it's never clear like..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Revoke access when someone consistently uses their position in your life to cause harm.
App Permissions control what you allow different areas of your life to access and the boundaries between work, relationships, health, and identity. Audrina Patridge had to revoke her husband's access to continue harming her and her daughter. She stopped allowing their marriage to access her sense of safety and her daughter's well-being. By calling police, she created a hard boundary that prevented the relationship from continuing to damage other areas of her life.
Audrina Patridge explains her decision to call police on her abusive husband, knowing it would end their marriage but prioritizing her daughter's safety.
"i knew that that moment i called the police that's the end of it and i knew that after what had happened and just the he..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Set clear boundaries about which business functions get priority access to your resources and brand focus.
App Permissions controlled what Christina Latcherverse allowed different areas of her business to access. She had pottery wholesale, classes, workshops, and community studio all competing for the same resources and attention. When Che Wang told her 'it's time to pick what Seagrass Pottery really is when they grow up,' she realized she needed to set clearer boundaries between different business functions and decide which deserved primary access to her time and brand identity.
Christina Latcherverse is describing her vision for Seagrass Pottery to become the go-to brand for meaningful creative experiences beyond just pottery sales.
"i think you might be on target or on trend and so bringing you in to their locations might actually have some benefits f..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Revoke access when one area of life starts controlling areas where it doesn't belong.
App Permissions controls what you allow different areas of your life to access and the boundaries between work, relationships, health, and identity. Hayden Panettiere had allowed the 'work' app full access to her relationship with her mother, letting business completely override the personal. When she told her mother 'I don't want us to work together anymore. I just want you to be my mom,' she was revoking work's permission to access her family relationships.
Hayden Panettiere is describing the moment at age 19 when she told her mother she wanted to end their business relationship and just have her be her mom.
"when i was 19 i finally got the guts to got up the courage to split from her as business wise because i desperately want..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Revoke work's access to your personal time, thoughts, and identity outside of designated hours.
App Permissions were reconfigured when the speaker realized work had been granted access to every area of their life—their thoughts, their sleep, their personal time, their sense of identity. They began setting boundaries about what work was allowed to access, recognizing that just because they could be reached didn't mean they should be. The shift involved revoking work's permission to occupy their bedside table and their mental space during off hours.
Jay Shetty reveals how work has been granted inappropriate access to personal time and mental space.
"which means your phone on your bedside table with work notifications enabled is not a neutral object it is a device that..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Understand exactly what access you're granting to investors before you give them majority control of your company.
App Permissions captures Greg Renfrew's painful realization about what she had actually given the Carlisle Group access to when she sold them majority control of Beauty Counter. She thought she was just giving them financial ownership while maintaining operational control, but they had permission to access and change her role as CEO. When growth plateaued, Carlisle used their permissions to remove her from leadership entirely.
Greg Renfrew explains what she allowed Carlyle Group access to when she sold them majority control of Beauty Counter.
"you know i i i think you're absolutely right i think the term natural or all natural means absolutely nothing the challe..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Decide which family relationships get access to which parts of your emotional life.
App Permissions reflects how this person had to revoke their family's access to their emotional well-being and decision-making. They stopped allowing their mother to access their mental health and stopped letting their sister's choices influence their own healing process. The person learned to separate what parts of family life they would engage with and what they would keep off-limits.
Alex Cooper is suggesting clear boundaries with the sister about not allowing their mother access to their healing process through family updates.
"i need you to respect my no contact with mom which means i don't want to hear about her when we're together i need us to..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Set boundaries around which life areas your relationship can influence and which stay under your control.
App Permissions reflects how this woman had given her relationship access to override her personal preferences and sleep schedule. She allowed her boyfriend's wellness routine to completely take over her mornings and self-care approach. She needed to revoke some of those permissions and establish boundaries around what parts of her life the relationship could influence.
Alex Cooper is coaching a woman to establish boundaries with her boyfriend about his intense 5am wellness routine that she's been pretending to enjoy.
"i think i'm realizing that i have just like a different need and want for my mornings and for the way that i approach my..."
App Permissions
App Permissions — Decide what access you're willing to give love when it conflicts with your personal boundaries.
App Permissions controls what Gianmarco Seraze allows different areas of his life to access. He had strict boundaries about not letting cats into his living space due to his trauma. When his girlfriend rescued the kittens, he adjusted these permissions to allow his love for her to override his personal safety boundaries.
Gianmarco Seraze is describing how he tried to control the situation by setting boundaries about not getting involved with the kittens, but his girlfriend was already crossing those boundaries.
"and i could see where this was going so i said to my girlfriend let's go we we need to go home i have a business meeting..."
