Self-awareness; your ability to track where you are mentally, emotionally, and physically — in time, space, and energy.
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Location Services — When you react to a normal situation with unusual intensity, pause and ask where that reaction is actually coming from.
Location Services is about self-awareness — knowing where you actually are mentally and emotionally. Ivan Lowe had almost no awareness of how displaced he was. He thought he was home and okay; he was actually still in Kabul, emotionally speaking. He had zero ability to track the gap between where he thought he was and where he actually was until the Vegas gate incident made it impossible to ignore. Therapy gave him a map for the first time.
Ivan Lowe realizes — hours after screaming at Rebecca at a gated community — that his nervous system had been running Afghanistan logic the whole time, unable to distinguish Vegas from Kabul.
"by that day we were in vegas and that happened it had been well over ten years since i had last sat outside a gate in af..."
Location Services
Location Services — Honestly compare where you are to where you actually want to be before investing more into the current path.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are. Carrie League had been operating on a map that said: Rice University, then PhD, then career in science. When she looked around at the other PhD candidates and saw people who had no interest in anything outside their field, she got an honest fix on her actual position — she was on the wrong track for who she was. That self-location was what let her change direction.
Carrie League describes the moment she looked around at her fellow PhD candidates and got an honest read on where she actually was — and realized she was on the wrong track for who she was as a person.
"i was with this other group of phd candidates and i'd say oh i see that negativeland is coming to town does anyone want..."
Location Services
Location Services — Pause and honestly assess whether the path you're on is actually one you chose.
Location Services tracks where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, in time and space. Tim League's baseline was off: he had followed a conventional path without checking whether it matched where he actually was as a person. Standing in that Shell Oil basement on day one, something recalibrated. He got an honest read on his position and it didn't match the map he'd been following. From that point forward, he stopped operating on assumptions about where he was headed.
Tim League describes the moment a 'for lease' sign on an abandoned theater recalibrated his sense of where he actually was and where he wanted to go, triggering a rapid pivot away from the Shell Oil path.
"so on my way to work was this abandoned theater and it had always been there so i passed it you know a 100 times but one..."
Location Services
Location Services — Locate yourself honestly within a large problem before deciding what your specific role in addressing it can be.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, in terms of energy and capacity. Alex Cooper was tracking herself throughout this conversation: acknowledging when the discussion made her emotional, naming the feeling of yelling into a void, and then identifying that impending motherhood had shifted her coordinates. She found her footing not by solving the big problem but by getting clear on where she was standing and what she could actually reach from there.
Alex Cooper reflects on the emotional geography of covering this topic — naming the feeling of helplessness that comes with talking about it over and over — and then locating her footing in the idea that this moment feels genuinely different.
"it sometimes feels truly unimaginable that change could actually happen i think sometimes it feels like you're just yell..."
Location Services
Location Services — Track not just the time spent with someone, but the mental space they occupy before and after.
Location Services is about being able to track where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, energetically. Jay Shetty's key point here is that most people don't realize how much space a difficult relationship is taking up because they only count the time they're physically together. When you start measuring the pre-conversation dread and the post-conversation rumination, you get a much more accurate reading of where you're actually spending yourself. That honest accounting is Location Services doing its job.
Jay Shetty delivers the core reframe — that the real cost of a draining relationship shows up in the mental real estate it occupies when the person isn't even present.
"the true cost of a relationship is not always measured by the time you spend together it can also be measured by the amo..."
Location Services
Location Services — Get an honest read on where you've actually been showing up before deciding what needs to change.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — not where you wish you were. Michaela Nogueira spent years inside a marriage while being emotionally and physically somewhere else — on shoots, traveling, wrapped in career demands. The shift came when she got an honest read on her actual position: she had not been present as a partner, and acknowledging that was a recalibration of her self-awareness from a comfortable story to the real one.
Michaela describes how she became emotionally absent inside her marriage — physically there but pulled somewhere else — as her career exploded and the online hate consumed her.
"i became very detached and i became very passive and i wasn't being a good partner to him because i was so one taken bac..."
Location Services
Location Services — Check whether your read on a situation is based on current evidence or old signals before acting on it.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — mentally and emotionally. For most of this story, Alex Cooper had no real read on her own position. She thought she was in a normal relationship when she was being manipulated. She thought she was crazy when she was actually right. The moment she said 'I stopped trusting myself, even though I was right the whole time' is the moment Location Services flickered back on — she finally found her real coordinates.
Alex describes walking into a party and finding her boyfriend with his ex sitting on his lap — the moment she had all the proof she needed but still couldn't trust her own read on reality.
"daddy gang i walked into this party and i will never forget it it's a house party i walk in and immediately i look like..."
Location Services
Location Services — Regularly check whether your self-assessment is based on old information or what you've actually demonstrated recently.
Location Services is about accurately tracking where you are. Sonia Morgan's internal GPS was badly miscalibrated — she believed she was someone who couldn't handle difficulty, when in reality she was handling it constantly. The years on the show, doing hard things in public, recalibrated her self-assessment. By the time she says 'I know I am' a good mom, her Location Services are finally returning accurate data.
Sonia delivers the clearest statement of her internal GPS finally returning accurate data — moving from 'I can't handle this' to 'I know I am' based on evidence generated by living through it.
"i'm much stronger than i realized i was at first i didn't think i could nurse my husband through all of that i felt oh i..."
Location Services
Location Services — Spend deliberate time assessing your actual strengths and weaknesses before entering situations where you'll be judged.
Location Services is about knowing exactly where you are mentally and emotionally. Sylvester Stallone used mirror therapy to get an honest read on himself — his strengths, his weaknesses, why certain rejections made sense. He stopped drifting in confusion and pinpointed exactly where he stood. That self-awareness became his compass.
Stallone explains how he developed his practice of mirror therapy — a method of self-directed analysis that gave him an honest location on himself when the world kept telling him he wasn't enough.
"I used a — I guess you might say a strategy called mirror therapy. I would actually talk to myself, when — because I had..."
Location Services
Location Services — Stay honest about where you actually are right now, even when someone older or more experienced is telling you to see the bigger picture.
Location Services is about knowing where you are — mentally, emotionally, in time and space. Nadja Hannah-Jones showed real self-awareness from early on: she knew she wasn't getting homework, she knew the school's scores were low, she knew she felt behind when she got to high school. She was tracking her own position clearly and accurately, even as an adult was telling her the picture was more complicated than she thought. Eventually that self-knowledge — knowing where she was and what she wanted — is what let her advocate for herself.
Nadja describes arriving at her chosen high school and discovering exactly how behind she was — a painful moment of self-location that was both academically and racially disorienting.
"i didn't wanna feel like i didn't know anything because i was set back in other schools i didn't wanna feel like i was d..."
Location Services
Location Services — Schedule one intentional self-check-in per year to take stock of where you actually are and what has changed.
Location Services tracks where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, in time. Gael built a birthday tradition specifically designed to answer that question: who do I have in my life? Where do I want to go? What changed in the last year? Before the shift, birthdays surfaced a vague sadness but gave him no actual read on where he was. Now the day functions as a deliberate self-check. He uses it to get an accurate fix on his current position, not just feel bad about it.
Gael explains how his birthday ritual now functions as a precise self-check — a map of where he actually is emotionally and in life — rather than a source of vague dread.
"who do i have in my life now who do i not like where do i wanna go and so for me it becomes more so of like a just a mar..."
Location Services
Location Services — Check in with your actual gut reaction before layering on explanations that make the situation more comfortable.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, in your life. Danielle spent years unable to accurately read her own situation. She felt panic on her wedding morning and dismissed it. She found an empty vial and put it back. Her self-awareness was functionally switched off. The shift came when she finally stopped overriding her own read of the room and let herself acknowledge what had been true all along.
Danielle describes the panic she felt on her wedding morning and how she overrode her own gut feeling, unable to accurately read the warning signal her body was sending her.
"i had this inexplicable thing that happened to me on our wedding morning where i had this sort of like panic like i doin..."
Location Services
Location Services — Pause before any major decision and ask whether your current emotional state reflects your genuine position or a conditioned response.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, and in terms of what you want. This woman had been so busy adapting to external demands that she'd lost her internal coordinates. When she started asking 'who is making this decision?' she was essentially turning Location Services back on — trying to find out where she was, not where everyone else needed her to be.
The host reframes the woman's search for direction — shifting from 'what should I do' to 'who inside me is driving this choice' — turning on her internal GPS for the first time.
"The question isn't whether writing or speaking or coaching are the right path for you. The deeper question is who is mak..."
Location Services
Location Services — Check in honestly with how you actually feel right now, not how you hoped things would feel by this point.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — mentally and emotionally. Tinashe admitted she'd drifted so far from her own instincts that she was 'lying to herself.' She'd lost track of where she was in the relationship and what she actually felt versus what she was hoping to feel. The song was a way of turning Location Services back on — checking in honestly with where she was and calling it out.
Alex reads back Tinashe's own lyric to her, and Tinashe responds by articulating what it feels like to realize you lost track of yourself inside a relationship — self-abandonment as the deeper wound.
"I wrote that down in the song you say I've learned that it's worse to look back and admit i lied to myself when I always..."
Location Services
Location Services — Get an honest read on where you actually stand before deciding how to respond to an achievement or setback.
Location Services is self-awareness — knowing where you are mentally, emotionally, and in your career. Travis Kelce had genuinely no idea he was near the top of the all-time YAC list, let alone about to break the record. The moment of recognition — 'I didn't know I was even in the ballpark' — is Location Services switching on after being off. Once he knew where he actually stood, he could respond honestly rather than from a place of false modesty or overclaiming.
Travis Kelce discovers he had no idea he was anywhere near the all-time YAC record — a moment of Location Services switching on after being completely off.
"travis passed marshall faulk for most yak yards of all time which is fucking crazy this is by far the craziest thing i i..."
Location Services
Location Services — Check where you actually are right now before deciding how to respond to pressure.
Location Services tracks where you are mentally and emotionally in a given moment. Matthew McConaughey, about to improvise his first scene ever on a film set, checked in with himself by asking: who is this character and what does he love? That internal check-in — knowing where he actually was (nervous, no lines, no experience) and deliberately shifting his focus to the character — is Location Services doing exactly what it's supposed to do.
Matthew McConaughey describes the internal check-in he did before improvising his first-ever scene on a film set — grounding himself in who Wooderson was before the director called action.
"and i'm like who's my man about who's wooderson what does wooderson love i said wooderson loves his car i said oh well i..."
Location Services
Location Services — Get an honest read on exactly where you stand before deciding whether or how to act.
Location Services is about knowing exactly where you are — mentally, emotionally, physically. In that hotel lobby, Jonna Mendez had a very clear read on her situation: she had been made, she was exposed, and she might not get out. Rather than misread her position or pretend otherwise, she assessed with precision — she knew the terrorist saw her, knew what the guards with Kalashnikovs meant, and accepted where she stood. That honest read of her location is what allowed her to stay calm instead of making a move that got her killed.
Jonna Mendez describes the moment she realized she had been spotted by the terrorist in the hotel lobby — and her precise, unflinching read of exactly what that eye contact meant.
"i glanced up to my right and to my right across a hallway through a glass wall and then through another glass wall in th..."
Location Services
Location Services — Stop and honestly map which current activities align with what you actually care about versus what just seems viable.
Location Services is about accurately tracking where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, and in terms of energy. Brian Rudolph had been running around testing startup concepts without a clear read on what he actually valued. The conversation about 10-year commitment forced him to locate himself honestly — he wasn't in tech, he was in food, and had been for a while. Once that awareness switched on, everything else followed.
Brian Rudolph describes the moment a single question from a woman in the subscription box space forced him to honestly locate himself — realizing he was already in food, not tech.
"i remember having a conversation with someone who was in that space and she asked me if you were to work on this for ten..."
Location Services
Location Services — When spiraling into future scenarios, pause and identify exactly what is actually happening in the present moment.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — mentally, emotionally, in time. Jay Shetty points out that anxiety tricks people into living inside a future that doesn't exist yet, while their body is sitting in a perfectly ordinary present moment. His second shift — 'what problem actually exists right now?' — is a direct Location Services check: where am I, really? Not in the imagined disaster three weeks from now, but here, in this room, at this moment.
Jay Shetty is introducing the second shift — asking 'what problem actually exists right now?' — by first naming the core trap: anxiety pulls you out of where you actually are.
"i think one of the biggest reasons anxiety becomes so overwhelming is because it tricks us into living somewhere we don'..."
Location Services
Location Services — Check whether the story you tell about a past experience actually matches what the evidence shows — you may be further back than you think.
Location Services is about knowing where you actually are — emotionally, mentally, and situationally. For years, Bridget Marquardt thought she had processed the mansion years and moved on. She told Holly she had 'great memories' and 'nothing bad to say.' The rewatch podcast forced her to update her location — to recognize that she had not actually processed much of it at all, and that she was much earlier in that process than she'd assumed. The fake-smile realization is her getting an accurate GPS fix on where she actually is.
Bridget Marquardt describes the moment she got an honest read on where she actually was emotionally — realizing while flipping through a photo book that she had been performing happiness for years without knowing it.
"it wasn't until a good couple years after i left i was looking through that girls next door coffee table book we did tha..."
