Tone
How your message feels to someone else.
Miriam Toews and Her Silent Son Owen
Tone controls how your message lands with someone else. Miriam Toews had been sending her messages to Owen in the form of direct questions, which — regardless of her intent — landed as pressure. The moment she switched to silence and sighing, the tone of her communication shifted entirely. Owen received it not as interrogation but as presence, and he responded. The content of what she wanted to say hadn't changed — but the tone got through when words hadn't.