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Privacy controls how much of yourself you let out to the people around you. Alex Hai spent nearly a decade keeping his transgender identity hidden from the public while living openly only among close friends. The cage his therapist described was exactly this setting turned all the way down in professional life — sharing nothing of who he actually was with the thousands of tourists and journalists who interacted with him as the 'first female gondolier.' The shift came when he began moving that dial, first with testosterone and surgery, then with the public statement on his website.