High fit

Volume controls how strongly someone projects their thoughts and emotions into the world. For most of her dating life, Aly Raisman had her volume turned almost all the way down around her own needs — staying quiet about what made her uncomfortable, never rocking the boat, hoping things would just work out. The shift she describes is turning that dial up: saying what she wants from the first date, bringing things up quickly and clearly instead of waiting until they've become a big problem.