Parental Controls
Whether you give yourself the option to choose who you are, instead of just defaulting to how you were raised.
Janelle Monáe and Coming Into Her Sexuality
Parental Controls is literally what Janelle Monáe was working against. Her conservative Baptist upbringing installed a default setting: suppress anything that doesn't fit the norm, fear difference, follow the rules. She spent years running on that default without choosing it. The arc of her career is the story of manually overriding those installed controls — deciding for herself who she was and how she wanted to live, rather than defaulting to what she was raised to accept.