Emotional Availability
How present and reachable you are for the people closest to you. Can they find you when they need you? Can you show up without shutting down or getting overwhelmed?
Travis and the Death of Raven — Grief After Losing His Son
Emotional Availability collapsed after Raven's death in ways Travis describes with specificity. Travis Rosen, who had worked as a nurse, run a business for eighteen years, and taught martial arts — all roles requiring sustained emotional presence — found he could not answer the question 'how are you doing?' without being destabilized. He left a living history event early because the weight of being there without Raven overwhelmed him, and his crew eventually sent him home from work because his presence was counterproductive. The dial that had been set to 'reliably present and functional' dropped to near zero, and only the addition of duloxetine moved it back to a range where he could begin re-engaging with people.