High fit

Notifications control which external signals get through and demand your attention. For years, Aly Raisman had her notifications wide open to every social cue about her relationship status — the engagement posts, the 'are you dating anyone' questions at group dinners, the family comments about grandkids. Every one of those signals hit and registered as a reminder that she was 'behind.' Writing the article was her starting to filter which of those signals she was going to let through and which she was going to start ignoring.