Backup

The systems, people, and practices you have in place to preserve what matters — so nothing critical is ever truly lost.

Backup helped Tommy figure out what was actually worth preserving from his relationship with his dad. For years he'd been trying to save everything - the guilt, the blame, the responsibility, all of it mixed up with his love. The manic episode was like his system crashing, and when he came back online, he had to decide what to restore. Through therapy, he learned to backup just the love, the good memories, and the real connection they had. He could save 'my dad loved me' and 'I loved my dad' without also saving 'I'm responsible for his death.' The guilt didn't need to be preserved to honor his father.