High fit

Update is about being willing to install new ways of thinking, even when the current version is comfortable. Prima Kwagala had to update her understanding of her father — he went from warm and protective to someone who enforced a system that diminished her mother. She also had to update her understanding of her own place in the world. She didn't cling to the version of her family that felt safe. She took the harder, more accurate version and used it to build a direction.